party boy no more

[rem1]

Once again I turned down an invitation to a party because I feel awkward around booze. This really sucks since it was a neighbor celebrating a birthday and many friends were there. I lied and said I wasn't feeling well but I'm beginning to wonder if I'm ever going to be able to go to these things. My wife understands and she's good about it but i feel like a recluse.

[ikon]

It does sucks not being able to attend parties. You told me awhile ago that you would step outside for a smoke. does this not work for house parties as well?
Anyway don't sweat the small stuff and start playing chess! We're all vulnerable and I was talking to a guy at A.A. who was sober 12 years and he still felt uncomfortable around alcohol. I guess we need to make our own fun. Keep the faith!

[trish]

I know what you mean. The world seems to be build around the consumption of alcohol. Social events, sports, you even drink wine in church! So of course, you remove all the alcohol from your home, but beyond that you dont have much control over the rest of the world. At some point you're going to have to go someplace where alcohol will be served, even if its just to see friends who do still drink.

I go to social events after work with my husband (also recovering). The place is usually was packed and few people sometimes asked what I'm drinking, but they don't care when I say "coke and cran with ice". They're just curious and its the start of a conversation.
Most people are at a bar first and foremost to socialize. The only people who will not understand that people can go the whole night without drinking alcohol in a bar will be in a local meeting sooner than they think.

Stay strong, keep going.
And when you're ready, embrace the new you.

Though I'd recommend go over chess, but its a personal thing.