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Comment on The Selfishness And Self Pity of Recovering Alcoholics by Douglas

Douglas — Sun, 22 Jan 2012 15:00:10 +0000

I am not a physician nor am I a mental health worker. I am, however, an alcoholic, who by the grace of God and fellowship of Alcoholics Anonymous will celebrate 30 continuous years of soberiety tomorrow.

I have nothing but praise for the program and its followers as it was one of those who has interceded on my behalf on many occassions. Our fight is, as with all others, with ourselves. Alcohol is the most powerful drug that there is and has gone to ruin more lives than any other. We take the drug and the drug takes us…

Personally, I feel that there needs to be a great deal more information and support available to the new person coming in to the program. This issue is always tenious as a new person is sometimes simply seeking a brief respite from their alcoholic self destruction and will soon wish to return to the haze.

Like a newly released offender departing the stiff parameters of incarceration, alcoholics require a great deal of support coming out of the confusion. Do we feel sorry for ourselves? Sure we do…but that will fall away as we learn to walk again with our heads up and our hearts full. I have seen pure unadulturated love pass between a sponsor and a gratefull recovering alcoholic.

From what I have read, alcoholism has its roots in depression. Most recovering alcoholics continue to experience severe bouts of depression, disphoria and many other clinical conditions relating to detox and withdrawl.

These conditions may continue into sobriety as they are in fact the root of the alcoholism to begin with. If and when we turn seriously to this or any other program for help we must receive a proviso from someone that soberiety is just the beginning and that true maturation and stability will require constant introspection and self examination and that recovery takes time and that we are always in recovery. AA accepts and encourages the utilization of medical assistance through the use of professional workers.

Some of the conditions we endure transpire during a time when we had no language and were capable of expressing their effect and repercussions only by emotion. I have discovered this through years of hypnotherapy. Alcoholism is a very treacherous master.

Comment on The Selfishness And Self Pity of Recovering Alcoholics by Abby

Abby — Wed, 04 Jan 2012 15:07:38 +0000

As a recovering alcoholic, I feel much empathy for you all. It may be hard to believe, but it is a disease of the mind, body and soul… but, like many diseases, it can heal. I watched my mother murdered when I was seven, but didn’t begin drinking till I was 35 and continued to drink till I was 47. Everything I had worked at… was lost by the time I hit bottom, and I truly didn’t care if I lived or died.
An alcoholic is not going to change until they decide they want to live. Most never get there, but some do. Save yourself. Sometimes we drunks can only see the light when all have left us.
If an alcoholic is truly on the path of recovery, you will know. We can only get sober by hard, consistent work, and the results are wonderful.
It’s a baffling disease, but miracles can happen. In the meantime…. WALK AWAY if you can. If they are on the road to recovery, over time they will prove themselves and work ceaselessly to make amends.
Good luck to all of you and I am truly sorry you have suffered. Take care of you and if you need help, you may want to try al-anon.

Comment on The Selfishness And Self Pity of Recovering Alcoholics by Jen

Jen — Thu, 15 Dec 2011 17:29:34 +0000

Thank you for coming out and saying what no one else would say. I’ve lived with an alcoholic and drug addict through multiple stints in rehab and relapses and years of treatment for the last five years. I get so sick of hearing “he needs to think of himself right now” and “support him.” When has he thought of anyone but himself? His selfishness got us where we are now (the bottom, again) and now he’s allowed to be selfish in recovery too? Thank you for speaking the truth!

Comment on Changing Your Life by Dave

Dave — Sun, 29 May 2011 10:53:00 +0000

Alcohol most certainly does take over one’s life, there is a pre-occupation of the mind that permanently is thinking of the next drink.
In my experience it is not easy trying stay stopped on my own. Like this post suggests, it is good to try whatever you have to do to get and stay sober.
The key to making it easier is “wanting” to stop and not “needing” to stop.
Do not suffer in silence.

Comment on Drinking Isn’t Affecting My Job – Or Is It? by SOBERINFO

SOBERINFO — Wed, 11 May 2011 20:30:22 +0000

You bring up a necessary point when connecting work, family and personal issues and relating them with the effects alcohol abuse. Too often we forget that we cannot compartmentalize life very effectively. Thanks for great points!

Comment on Alcohol Withdrawal – Don’t Try This At Home by Life Without Beer Goggles

Life Without Beer Goggles — Mon, 02 May 2011 20:46:33 +0000

Great post. I do think that when attempting to detox, you have to have a professional there to make sure you’re okay.

Good luck

Comment on Baclofen Treatment Promising for Alcoholism Treatment by Shawn

Shawn — Wed, 13 Apr 2011 22:25:22 +0000

I agree that baclofen is very effective in taking the edge off, especially in the early weeks and months of sobriety. I applaud people like Dr. Oliver Ameisen, author of “The End of My Addiction” for being brave enough to step outside the box.

I am fortunate to have a doctor who is very open-minded. I explained my situation and then showed him the book. I also printed out several web articles for him to see the proof. Thankfully, he started me on a fairly high dose and then raised it again after a month when he realized I was OK with it.

Thanks Dr. Pearlman for being open-minded about how to stop alcoholism!

Comment on Baclofen vis-à-vis Alcohol Cravings and Withdrawal by Jan

Jan — Sat, 26 Mar 2011 00:39:14 +0000

I’ve been on 80 mg of baclofen for a year now. One of the side effects I have is low blood pressure…I used to take 40 mg of benicar, 40 mg of benazepril and 50 mg of atenolol, plus 12.5 mg of chlorthalid per day. Now I am maintaining a 120/68 bp with only 20 mg of benicar. Has anyone else had this side effect?

Comment on The Selfishness And Self Pity of Recovering Alcoholics by Lin

Lin — Sun, 13 Mar 2011 15:05:05 +0000

I am very conflicted as I have been in a relationship with a very smart successful man who is a physician. Yet he finds any excuse to have a drink of wine or a beer every day till I get discussed then he stops drinking during the week or around me but once he is away from me he pours it I to him. He hides his life from me doesn’t Share much of anything of his thoughts or life. Conversations revolve around plans for trips together or events. Then I find myself reading his emails just to find out what is going on. Ive caught him in the past philandering with other women but denigns it. He makes plans for things days or weeks in advance and doesnt clue me in till the day of. He’s secretive lies and drinks to medicate due to some by polar tendancies.
I’ve turned into someone that I do not like as a result of putting up with his behavior.

Comment on Changing Your Life by Michael Pearlman, M.D.

Michael Pearlman, M.D. — Sat, 12 Mar 2011 16:12:57 +0000

There is a new book that offers a path for “Changing Your Life” entitled, 'Shift: 13 Exercises to Make You Who You Want to Be' By Takumi Yamazaki. This book is a teaching method to work with others and reframe your language as to how you would like things to be in your life. Mr. Yamazaki takes you from your current thinking and helps you to reframe these thoughts, to 'shift' your present perspective to a more effective and liberating consciousness.

'It's not that you're lazy, and it's not that you lack motivation. No, you have plenty of motivation, but it always seems to fade away just when you need it. The problem is not that you don't have motivation, it's that motivation doesn't stick around long enough. This book takes knowledge and inspiration from motivation specialists and distills it into something easy to understand. Thirteen exercises and seventeen techniques illustrate points to help you take the steps to keep, bring back, or find the motivation you need to make the shift into who you want to be.' 

Note: I was offered, and accepted, an advanced reader copy of this book for review purposes

Shift: 13 Exercises to Make You Who You Want to Be 
By Takumi Yamazaki



Comment on Baclofen vis-à-vis Alcohol Cravings and Withdrawal by bleep
bleep — Sun, 27 Feb 2011 10:32:47 +0000
Hi there, encouraging stuff. I have successfully used baclofen to completely suppress my alcoholic cravings. I went as high as 450mg’s per day, and am currently on about 300mg’s, with no return of cravings. I successfully moderate my intake of alcohol, choosing to have a glass of wine because I enjoy the taste, rather than the effect.



Comment on Drinking Isn’t Affecting My Job – Or Is It? by Charles Somer
Charles Somer — Tue, 18 Jan 2011 18:45:25 +0000
You hit the nail on the head here, just because you are functioning in your job does not mean you are not drinking problematically, and anyway if it’s not a problem now it will be later.
I know, because this was me.



Comment on Silencing The Alcoholic Mind by What are Some Common Alcoholic Addictions?
What are Some Common Alcoholic Addictions? — Wed, 29 Dec 2010 04:41:36 +0000
[...] an article called Silencing the Alcoholic Mind, Dr. Michael Pearlman says this; “Alcohol is a way to escape from the reality of the moment [...]



Comment on Three Ways to Avoid The Temptation of Alcohol This Holiday Season by Charles Somer
Charles Somer — Sat, 18 Dec 2010 21:02:03 +0000
I know this was posted last year, but the holiday time has come around again. It is one of the hardest times of the year for alcoholics like myself trying to stay on the wagon. 
My strategy is not to go to any parties/gatherings etc. over the holiday season, my family know my weakness (there’s a good euphemism) so no problem there. Basically I become a bit of a recluse for the months of December and January- a small price to pay for my sanity.
Thanks



Comment on Baclofen Treatment Promising for Alcoholism Treatment by Dilip
Dilip — Thu, 02 Dec 2010 21:08:40 +0000
Hello Sir
I shall like to know about the latest results of studies in efficacy of baclofen for de addiction of alcohol



Comment on Drinking Isn’t Affecting My Job – Or Is It? by aj
aj — Sat, 20 Nov 2010 18:14:44 +0000
wow…I can relate so much to this.  when I was active in my drinking I would of course drink on my way to work which was a 2 hour commute as well during breaks and at lunch.   my level of responsibility is high and make million dollar decisions daily.  I was always what I considered a highly functioning alcoholic but it truly started to spiral down without me realizing it my last couple months and now as I speak openly with a few co-workers of what I was going through they refer to incidents that I, supposedly a highly function alcoholic have no recollection of whatsoever.  Thank God I did not make a multi-million dollar mistake and just wounded my pride.  Thank you very much for sharing this!



Comment on Drinking Isn’t Affecting My Job – Or Is It? by Tami Pacheco
Tami Pacheco — Sun, 31 Oct 2010 19:48:07 +0000
First off, no matter how you slice it, drinking affects your job.  You leading a lie, your thinking and behavior isnt tied to doing what’s right because you’ve got issues including health, shame, hidden agendas and poor ethics. Alcohol isnt necessary to live as a human, but when become an alcoholic it feels like it.  Inpatient is great, but if you cant enroll go the other route and go to an out-patient program with a a built in follow written plan to prevent relapse.  Do it.



Comment on Silencing The Alcoholic Mind by jeff s.
jeff s. — Mon, 25 Oct 2010 04:30:25 +0000
My alcoholism took me to the jumping off point (suicide) I failed duh I’m writing this, but my mom did kill herself as a result of alcoholism. Tomarrow ill have been sober 2 years thanks to aa but I still cannot stop the insaine thoughts of suicide. I’m sober and have worked the 12 steps with a sponcer but I’m the reason I drank and I’m still here and I can only stop the insaine thinging for moments at a time. I don’t know if I should be locked away, take my life, get drunk or just keep doin what everybody else wants me to do?



Comment on Alcohol Cravings Medication – Prescription vs. Over the Counter by AJ
AJ — Mon, 25 Oct 2010 00:57:16 +0000
Thank you Dr. Pearlman.  You’re a very good person for putting together this website to educate people on the dangers of this disease.



Comment on Alcohol Cravings Medication – Prescription vs. Over the Counter by Kudzu? - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
Kudzu? - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information — Sun, 24 Oct 2010 01:33:09 +0000
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Comment on Friends and Family of an Excessive Drinker by Barb
Barb — Sat, 23 Oct 2010 00:00:44 +0000
My husband doesn’t understand why I’m angry some days.

When I see him drunk I just snap and then feel guilty for it.

I have been with him for 17 years, and the beer drinking is getting worse.

He gets mad at me and I feel like it is my fault. He is so thin now, and I don’t know when he is not going to wake up.

He admits that he is an alcoholic, but there is no way that I am going to tell him that he has to stop.

He is a contractor and it is getting harder for him to sell jobs.

Do you think people don’t hire him because he smells of alcohol?

I have two children, aged 10 and 9. They don’t like it either.

What should I do?

Lost.


Comment on Alcohol Cravings Medication – Prescription vs. Over the Counter by Michael Pearlman, M.D.
Michael Pearlman, M.D. — Mon, 18 Oct 2010 20:22:10 +0000
Hi AJ,

What I typically use with my patients is the Kudzu from www.iHerb.com

called Planetary Herbals Full Spectrum. This is the link to the product. I am unable to advise you on the usage of Kudzu. This is something you would need to discuss with your own personal physician, as they know your medical history. Best of luck to you

Comment on Alcohol Cravings Medication – Prescription vs. Over the Counter by AJ

AJ — Sun, 17 Oct 2010 00:57:26 +0000

Hi Dr.,

I’m very interested in trying to fight my drinking problem with Kudzu to see if I can do it or to determine if I need professional help, but I don’t know which extract to buy or where to buy it from. Is there possibly a link to a site that sells the Kudzu you were describing?

Thanks!

Comment on Silencing The Alcoholic Mind by wonderinboutmyself

wonderinboutmyself — Wed, 13 Oct 2010 05:48:36 +0000

this may be a dumb question but i started drinking about 3 years ago and when i first started i immediatley loved it but had it way under control. im talkin about likea 6 pack of beer every fri night or everyother fri night or sat. that went on for a year then i started to drink more heavily on the weekends more like a 12 pack on fri and maybe like a 6er on sat night just hangin out but still had it under control could still function very well and go to work and do good there and sometimes i would even drink some on a monday or a wed. i mean i could get drunk on a mon and easily get up for work on a tue morning and feel fine and that went on for a while but then my tollerance just skyrocketed and i started drinkin all the time (last winter) and could still function normal when i wasnt but all the sudden it started catching up to me. i remember one night i got really drunk and woke up one morning for work and i had a hangover like i never had i mean i couldnt think straight and i had anxiety really bad so i told myself that aint right i gotta cut back so i did i only drink like once a weekend but for some odd reason i still had anxiety during the week and all i thought about was drinkin from the time i woke up till the time i went to bed and it was weird cause i only drink once a week and it was like i was havien withdraws all weeek from just that one time. so then after 3months of that i finally said screw it and started drinkin heavely about 3 to 4 days out of the week and still have insomnia and aanxiety. so i finally said im done been quit now for 2 weeeks am i an alcholic even though i could only drink once a week?

Comment on The Selfishness And Self Pity of Recovering Alcoholics by lilolo

lilolo — Tue, 12 Oct 2010 06:04:15 +0000

Hey. I think its funny its amost a sacrilege being angry at alcoholics, after so many things readen like “it’s not their fault”, “it’s a desease”, “it’s not them, it’s the desease”. But the truth is that, also, you read, most of the time, after what i have read and heard, it is only when the partner says “it’s me or the alcohol” when they get their asses up and move to recovery. So, how could that be a desease??
I found the whole range of alcoholics treats disgusting: the self-pitty, the hand-shaking, the permanent manipulations attempts based on self pitty for hand shaking (“i hate that!”, he says). The loss of memory, the memory gaps, the lies, the alcohol stinking, the exagerated and associal behaviour, the cinism, the lack of hygiene, the stupid center-of-the-universe-complex. The cheating, the buying us for complete reards who doesnt know they lie. I hate everything. The way he says he needs me for recovering, and afterwards hides cans of beer he just bought in the middle of recovery.
The incapability of realising for themselves: “i am only one more. i am not special. i am just another one, same as everybody else”. Whilst the rest of us fight, even under pressure, in stressfull lifes, they complain on their lifes. I cannot stand hem. I just agree in that they are totally selfish. Thats all. Nothing more and nothing less.

Comment on Why Alcoholics Think They Know Better by leen

leen — Mon, 27 Sep 2010 19:36:59 +0000

this is good. my soon to be ex husband did not listen to the people in treatment about hanging out at bars, etc. afterwards and he relapsed 2 weeks after. he is like you stated a know-it-all. very frustrating especially after being marriedf 31 years then to have to call it quits. also, after seeing him as a normal sober person then having it taken away from me. that was cruel

Comment on Friends and Family of an Excessive Drinker by James

James — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 05:46:12 +0000

One of the biggest challenges is admitting to ones self that the person they care about actually has a problem and the steps needed to make a difference could result in major changes in their lives.

The hardest part is saying “there is a problem here” and then taking steps to move forward. It’s scary to admit that life is out of control, however this step is what sets the stage to getting help, finding the right answers, and having a happy and healthy life.

Comment on Alcohol Cravings Medication – Prescription vs. Over the Counter by Angie

Angie — Fri, 03 Sep 2010 20:45:25 +0000

I went to the dr. today and he is starting me on Campral. My question is would it help if I took Kuzu also. I just came off of a week long binge.

Comment on Changing Your Life by scott c.

scott c. — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 13:06:27 +0000

dr. sir,

you know that we aa”s do not have a prayer of modifying or controlling our drinking. sober your patients up and send them to us.

thank you,
scott
high functioning alcoholic clinician

Comment on Drinking Isn’t Affecting My Job – Or Is It? by hans keer

hans keer — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 10:01:18 +0000

This is more a general reaction. Just to say you are doing good Dr Pearlman by presenting all this information. We started a triptych post on our blog regarding the metabolism of alcohol/ethanol. Maybe it can contribute to your work Very best Regards

Comment on Friends and Family of an Excessive Drinker by Haley

Haley — Sat, 26 Jun 2010 17:21:58 +0000

I am 17 years old with a 13 year old sister and 1 year old brother. My grandmother is a big support to us emotionally but this is wearing us all down. My mother is beautiful, successful, but is fast falling apart. She can be olding a drink in her hand and deny it is alcohol even after we taste it and confront her. She vomits consitently, runs fever, diarrea, just stays sick. My grandmother is a nurse and knows it is alcohol but we can’t controll it or change her. Question. What can we do without enabling her and still keep our household together with our baby brother there is no daddy in the picture?

Do most alcoholics deny their addiction to this extent?
She doesn’t remember anything and tells lots of stories that are conflicting and not true.
Thank you.

Comment on The Selfishness And Self Pity of Recovering Alcoholics by angel

angel — Tue, 15 Jun 2010 11:56:32 +0000

I am just also coming to realisation that the Man I have been dating for the past 2 years has all the traits of alcoholisim but just not the drink ..he justifies his behaviour, blames me for everything, has deliusional thinking ..secretly believes hes a war hero ..is constantly smoking, eating chocolate and drinking coffee. He is off alcohol for over 4 years but is not in a recovery programme ..so behaviour is same… I am now getting out of this and hardening myself to him. Behaviour like this will never change unless the person sees the errors of his ways …so time to move on ..and find a person who will love and care for me as I know I am capable of great love for them…

Comment on The Selfishness And Self Pity of Recovering Alcoholics by foster

foster — Fri, 28 May 2010 15:24:01 +0000

as a grown man i am tossed between my vows to god and my own needs to be happy, i have stood by her trying to be there for years but amd also trying to stay away from being a co dependant, its like i am a father figure to her, not a husband nor a lover

Comment on The Selfishness And Self Pity of Recovering Alcoholics by foster

foster — Fri, 28 May 2010 15:22:27 +0000

my wife was an alcoholic from and early age, she lied cheated and even stole money from us, she neglected the wishes to stop drinking from me and her children, it wasnt until the children matured past her that we all could walk out and leave her as we did, she like her alcoholic rage was angry and threatening to us, we took away her dependant family, it was then after she started to realize the monster she had become, she went to treatemtn in florida, and has been sober for a year, but her mental state is still that of a child, her abilty to think in adult ways, show feelings emotions to both me and the family are very lacking, the kids and i still are in the same house we moved into and she ius still in her house, she cannot underdtand what is wrong or the adult need to want to repair or make things right with her family, the common sence, good judgemtns , passion , feelings tears etc are just not there, yes she is sober but still the same empty hull of a human being, its sad to see her like this and still watch the suffering from the children both over the age of 20 but still the years of pain and devastation she has done, repair for them is needed for them to try to enter into a normal relation ship themselves. theropy for them is a must, funny how the addict cant see what all they have done to those around them and try to make mends

Comment on Baclofen vis-à-vis Alcohol Cravings and Withdrawal by Michael Pearlman, M.D.

Michael Pearlman, M.D. — Fri, 14 May 2010 23:26:31 +0000

Baclofen may a danger to those with kidney disease: If you have kidney problems or kidney failure it may contraindicated. In all questions of medications review with your doctor who is aware of your medical conditions and can advise and monitor accordingly. Here is a link to more information about Baclofen I hope you'll find helpful. Best, Michael

Comment on Alcohol Cravings Medication – Prescription vs. Over the Counter by Mary

Mary — Fri, 14 May 2010 20:25:29 +0000

Hi Dr. Pearlman,
Happy to have stumbled across your site today. Thanks for being an MD who makes the effort to investigate holistic therapies in addition to conventional medication. I look forward to following your blog. Best to you and your patients.

Comment on Friends and Family of an Excessive Drinker by Alison

Alison — Sun, 09 May 2010 16:26:45 +0000

In the uk there are a lot more rules around the serving of alcohol these days and the responsible person amoungst others needs to have a personal alcohol licence. These were created to raise standards in alcohol retailing. Not certain this has actually happened though here. Not serving to people who are drunk can help but sometimes they are determined!

Comment on Baclofen vis-à-vis Alcohol Cravings and Withdrawal by gapalin

gapalin — Wed, 05 May 2010 18:15:54 +0000

Is there any significant health risk, particularly to the kidneys and other internal organs, in taking 40-80mg baclofen daily while continuing to have 3-4 drinks daily?

Comment on The Selfishness And Self Pity of Recovering Alcoholics by Pat

Pat — Tue, 04 May 2010 10:40:50 +0000

I never knew that selfishness could be the core of alcoholism. I have long dealt with this issue in my life, by attracting drunken partners (thanks Mother!!) and now have come to the stage in my mid 40’s of realising a whole lot of issues about why I am attracted to these kinds. But what has eclipsed me all these years of relationships with alcoholics is that they were selfish and i was the enabling giver. Now I get it. They are truly takers in this life, and people like me are the givers. Thats why you normally see these two traits pairing up. I must be still looking for something when I feel I have to give give give all the time, especially to the takers. I remember once dating a man who was such a lovely sweet giver, like me. And I couldnt wait to end it. Now I know why. Its a long journey to discovering your inner mechanisms that attract you to the so called disease. BTW-I dont subscribe to the idea that alcoholism is a disease. I believe it is a behaviour. Maybe the discussion about whether it is a conscious or unconscious choice should be the focus. But a disease? No physical scientific evidence exists to make a causal inference there. Sure, there are associations, but I am going to rely on behaviourism in my understanding of this rotten destructive epidemic called alcoholism. So for the last year or so I have been silently employing the notion that my partner is just totally and wholly selfish. And all the signs are there. I have resigned myself to realising this fact, and just decided to google “alcoholism and selfishness” and now see that in fact there are others who have already made this conclusion. At least the penny dropped with me finally!

Comment on Friends and Family of an Excessive Drinker by Chris Simonite

Chris Simonite — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 13:00:56 +0000

I work as an admissions counsellor for a detox and rehab unit. It is a common issue for friends and family of an alcoholic to want to love them better and sadly it doesn’t work, often it goes the other way. The process of trying to love alcoholics back to good health is known as enabling, as loved ones are often enlisted to buy alcohol and help them to carry on drinking.

It’s true that what is really needed is tough love. Interventionists educate families to this. The general essence of an intervention is that you let the alcoholic know that you love them but you cannot stand by and watch the illness of alcoholism destroy them. So they have to take the help that’s offered or you need to withdraw the support.

Comment on The Drinking Diary by Alcoholic in Recovery

Alcoholic in Recovery — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 01:50:32 +0000

Michael, this is an excellent article. I have stacks of journals from the first few years of staying away from a drink.

My favorite page in one of them is when the miracle happened for me. In all of the entries prior, I would write something like; “I woke up anxious today.” The day when the peace of God became evident was the last day I ever wrote the statement.

Somehow since then, I have always known that He was with me. It was the beginning of living a life filled with faith in God rather than fear.

It is very true that keeping a journal helps us to identify the times when we are struggling with issues in our life that used to cause us to seek out a drink for relief.

Comment on Baclofen vis-à-vis Alcohol Cravings and Withdrawal by David

David — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 09:48:37 +0000

My wife is on 60 mg of baclofen a day and it effectively suppressed her cravings. She has tried Acamprosate and Naltrexone and they don’t work at all. She has also used librium to come off alcohol. Baclofen is far more effective for ending drinking binges as it is not addictive and can stop drinking in a day. Dr. Ameisen discovered that cravings stop totally at doses of between 1 and 3 mg per day per kilo of body weight. He takes 120 mg in divided doses of 30 mg morning, 30 mg afternoon and 60 mg at night. Any doctor can prescribe at that level, safely, without FDA approval on an open label basis.

Comment on Baclofen vis-à-vis Alcohol Cravings and Withdrawal by David

David — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 09:41:59 +0000

My wife is on baclofen at 60 mg. It suppresses her cravings. I am trying to have her doctor prescribe it at the level suggested by Olivier Ameisen. That level is 1 to 3mg per kilo of body weight per day divided in three doses and increasing to a maximum dose before reducing to the effective maintenance dose. Ameisen took 120 per day, 30 in the morning, 30 in the afternoon and 60 at night.

Comment on Coping With The Holidays – How To Determine If You’re Drinking Too Much by Alcohol Freedom Blog » The Drinking Diary

Alcohol Freedom Blog » The Drinking Diary — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 14:56:59 +0000

[...] back, I wrote about Coping with the Holidays and gave you some tips to help curb your drinking during this stressful [...]

Comment on Andrew’s Story: Was it Just Heavy Drinking or Passive Suicide? (Part I) by lynn dilan

lynn dilan — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 10:05:39 +0000

Re:Andrew would always remember his counselors next words, that for reasons they would be discussing, Andrew was trying to slowly kill himself and with full knowledge of this fact. He called it passive suicide. Passive suicides are always less violent in nature and leave some room for intervention or time to reassess the act. It is truly giving up on ones self.

hi. question about the definition of passive suicide.
can you please clarify your specific definition? the passage up there is confusing to me.

passive suicide as i understand it is being in a high risk situation, or performing a high risk act with resultant death. There is no room for reassessing the act because the person is unconsciously destroying themselves. All self destructive acts leave room for intervention by others, if they are savvy enough and non-enablers.

As far as i know, suicidal acts differ only by passive or active methods. They are all active suicides, however. If someone is partaking in drugs and “accidentally ” overdoses, then that is a passive suicide. The methods, whether passive(gassing) or active (shooting) are employed with the conscious intent to kill oneself, with a plan and action to follow.

I believe that people such as Heath Ledger and Michael Jackson died by passive suicide. They knew all the drugs they were doing, they knew that it could kill them, whether consciously or unconsciously, yet they still continued to partake.

They were long on the path of self destruction and therefore there would be no time to change their minds. What do you mean by intervention? If you mean by others, how can people intervene when they are in denial of what is going on. Enablers cannot intervene. When the person dies they swear up and down it was an “accident’ . And the coroner enables by not acknowledging the category of “passive suicide”.

What’s up with all this?

Thanks.

Linda

Comment on Three Ways to Avoid The Temptation of Alcohol This Holiday Season by Carrie

Carrie — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 04:56:49 +0000

Just as Mike said I think we can all benefit from the second suggestion. Thank you so much for this post. Sobriety is not easy, but it is one day at a time is the best way to approach it. Alcoholism treatment is an important step.

Comment on Three Ways to Avoid The Temptation of Alcohol This Holiday Season by mike

mike — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 18:43:38 +0000

thanks for the post.
your tips are great to get through the holidays.

The 2nd one I try to practice at least monthly.
What is my perfect day? What would make me happy today? I don’t always get to do it but they are always worth striving for. This way I know what makes me happy!

Comment on Silencing The Alcoholic Mind by bluefire

bluefire — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 03:36:17 +0000

I just recently separated with my husband. We fought day and nite. If I didn’t start he did. I reacted in every bad way possible. Took my disgust and anger and made myself feel better by hurting him verbally and now he resents me. We love eachother very much but it became too toxic. I feel so much better with out him physicaly here. It wasn’t a marriage anymore. Is it normal for him to be away while he recovers? I’m starting alanon and meetings with a therapist for my emotional and anger issues. He is working on his. I fear I will be ten steps ahead of him…I love him so. Is this normal?

Comment on Coping With The Holidays – How To Determine If You’re Drinking Too Much by Alcohol Freedom Blog » Three Ways to Avoid The Temptation of Alcohol This Holiday Season

Mon, 28 Dec 2009 13:02:47 +0000

[...] my post last week, I mentioned the challenges of coping with the holidays. I’d like to share some ideas with you that I think will help take you away from bad habits this [...]

Comment on Coping With The Holidays – How To Determine If You’re Drinking Too Much by Mike

Mike — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 22:18:23 +0000

Thanks for the post.
A lesson I learned long ago was that I didn’t need to be out on the street to be considered, or accept that I am, an alcoholic. I can tell you though, I honestly was ready to go there to prove myself wrong. Somehow through the grace of God I found my way earlier…well before I was close to being on the street.

Comment on Codependency And The Problem Drinker by exDrunk

exDrunk — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 22:36:14 +0000

Good article! I really like your site.

Typo: last paragraph.

The only person who can really change is the addict or dysfunctional individual ? and by their own admission.

It should read:

The only person who can really change is the addict or dysfunctional individual is the dysfunctional person.

or:

The only person who can really change is the addict or dysfunctional individual and by their own admission that they have a problem.

Comment on Regaining Lost Trust While In Alcohol Recovery by RAV

RAV — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 13:56:46 +0000

My wife is in recovery out of the home. Friends for 27 years and married for 22,
her illness has been devastating. I really appreciate this article as it gives me insight that her closest family, me and the kids, may be the last relationship she may rebuild. I dont understand that but, then again…??

She has been advised to move out of the house and into her own place by AA counselor because of how bad the drinking has been around the house. I don’t like that but, she remembers every closet and every corner and every bag she hid her booze, and where I found them over and over again. She probably remembers every fight and every evil word I spoke, and never heard my good words or saw my love.

She is working on garbage bags full of issues that started from the age 9, I assume that she has to come to terms with that before she can work on other relationships.
Alcoholics are terrible at relationships and communication. For some reason, I hope we make it. I dont want to throw away half of my life because, the girl I married and the wonderful things that I saw are still inside of her.

I sent divorce papers a month ago, 3 months into recovery, and she hasn’t accepted them because she wants to eventually come home, I think? I dont know what she wants. We argued and debated for two weeks and then found a calm and I decided to let her recover and just be happy she is alive. I think I just wanted to throw away all of the pain and years of destruction.

The family and I are amazed that she is rarely in contact with our teenage boys, is it because she is too afraid or not ready to rebuild our family until she rebuilds herself? I think she knows or trusts that deep down I am loyal and patient and she trusts the kids are safe and taken care of. I dont know when we will be a part of her recovery or when she will rebuild us.

She is sober for 18 weeks as of 11/01/09 and I am glad she is alive. She keeps contact every other day or so, and we see each other once a week. She says that being away is what she has to do to learn a new life and become a productive person. She finally got a small job in retail and she is very proud of herself and I am proud of her too.

Thanks to your articles and Al Anon, I am learning and finding myself becoming a person again too, a rebirth for both of us is what I am looking for and possibly the best marriage ever.

Comment on Live And Let Live – Coping With People Who Drive Us To Drink by Randy

Randy — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 16:12:31 +0000

This is another great article. I am a “strong personality” and my wife is the “i”. SHe is in recovery and sober for 18 weeks today and has removed herself from our home.
This does hurt, but it is probably for the best, and reading this article shows that is exacly what she has done, she has “walked away”.

I am not the only cause for her drinking most of her disorders start back when she was 9 years old, and there are garbage bags full of debris for her to go through, but she has said to me that I make her want to drink. I will start to change my reactions to her egocentric personality as she is doing exactly what your article explains she should do “finding calm”.

Eventually I hope we have a great marriage to continue both becoming better people.

Comment on The First Step Is The Most Important, But The 12 Step Program Is Not Right For Everyone by SNYC

SNYC — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 20:12:03 +0000

I’m kind of amazed at the degree of medical and spiritual irresponsibility exhibited on this “blog”. (I place the word “blog” in quotation marks because this is clearly an ad campaign masquerading as homespun advice tailored for Joe Q. Executive). My consolation, however, is that anyone who has experienced true recovery from alcoholism will immediately recognize that the information in this “blog” is dangerous and almost entirely contrary to the fundamental notions of recovery from alcoholism.

It is ridiculous to suggest that “professionals” don’t have time to devote to an honest and thorough recovery – if they had the time to drink, they can make the time to get sober. Meetings are an hour long – a mere fraction of the time that most active alcoholics spend drinking on a daily basis. I know many, many “professional types” who are active and contributing members of AA – many of them, in fact, credit their success at work to their personal development as a result of the AA program.

It is unbelievably condescending of you to suggest that “professionals” represent a different CLASS of alcoholic – class divisions of this kind are actively (but peaceably) discouraged among alcoholics sharing the common goal of sobriety. Your tone suggests that people who have not been conventionally successful “belong” in AA, because of their inherent lesser value to the world at large, whereas conventionally successful “manager” types need another form of care that will allow them to stay at work, this keeping the wheels of the world turning for the rest of us. What absolute crap.

AA meetings are not groups of sad, underachieving losers sitting in dank basements crying in their coffee while the “real” people get help elsewhere. AA is all-inclusive and offers the same promises and the same program to each and every member – be they “management” material or (gasp) those less successful or less educated.

I encourage anyone reading this to try the divisive, non-inclusive, close-minded form of recovery described in this blog. And when you do, and it fails utterly, I hope to see you in a meeting sometime.

I’m an not an AA fanatic (in fact, I could use some more meetings myself), nor am I someone who routinely comments angrily on blogs. However, the snake-oil salesman tone of this blog entry prompted me to make my feelings known.

I bear you no ill-will personally, but I hope for the sake of alcoholics everywhere that no one buys this crap. Also, if you are a “manager” or “executive”, you ought to know – AA represents a much better return on your investment. It’s free, it does not create needless divisions between people, and…oh yeah…it actually works.

Comment on Flying Drunk – How Alcohol Almost Destroyed an Airline Pilot and 93 Other People by Coachdad

Coachdad — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 22:14:16 +0000

Just came out in my own blog as an alcoholic. Glad I found this site. Thank you!

Comment on Flying Drunk – How Alcohol Almost Destroyed an Airline Pilot and 93 Other People by Coachdad

Coachdad — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 22:11:50 +0000

Just came out on my blog as an alcoholic. Glad I found this site and I will continue to come back.

Comment on Alcohol Withdrawal – Don’t Try This At Home by Aaron Wintergreen

Aaron Wintergreen — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 23:01:03 +0000

Alcohol detox offers the suffering alcohol a chance to take advantage of the help of a licensed professional. Being sober isn’t always easy, but with some assistance it can change your life for the better.

Good luck with your treatment and ongoing recovery

Comment on Flying Drunk – How Alcohol Almost Destroyed an Airline Pilot and 93 Other People by Sarah Keeney

Sarah Keeney — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 19:24:26 +0000

Thank you for bringing attention to this matter.

You can read more about Flying Drunk author Joe Balzer, and view recent media clips, on his website here http://flyingdrunk.com

Sarah Keeney
Savas Beatie LLC

Comment on Flying Drunk – How Alcohol Almost Destroyed an Airline Pilot and 93 Other People by Aaron Wintergreen

Aaron Wintergreen — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 20:16:13 +0000

I heard about this at work the other day. I can’t believe they were on their laptops. It sounds like a joke. Fortunately alcohol treatment facilities exist for those that are struggling to get sober. It is a surprise how many lives they put in danger. Denial is very powerful, hopefully this will shed light on their addiction.

Comment on The Selfishness And Self Pity of Recovering Alcoholics by anon

anon — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 19:12:27 +0000

I am tired of hearing alcoholics described as charming rogues. I left a well paid job because both my boss and a work-colleague were alcoholics. They displayed all the classic character traits: selfishness, jealousy, childish self-pity, mood-swings, memory loss (and false memories), vindictiveness… need I go on? Oh yes, and the shaky hands in the morning (I say “morning”, but they’d both weigh in late after I’d already done several hours of work on my own), followed by non-regulation extended lunch breaks at – you guessed it – the bar. Due to the stress of working with them, I was drinking so heavily I was in danger of joining them! Now I am stress-free and down to a bottle of wine with meals at the weekend. Poorer, but healthier and happier.

Comment on Flying Drunk – How Alcohol Almost Destroyed an Airline Pilot and 93 Other People by Mike

Mike — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 16:41:49 +0000

Thanks for the post.
I know a number of recovering addicts who came to believe about their addiction due to what they were doing to their loved ones.

Comment on Baclofen vis-à-vis Alcohol Cravings and Withdrawal by Louise

Louise — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 17:26:39 +0000

According to The End of My Addiction, a book written by doctor Oliver Ameisen, who himself was a severe alcoholic until he discovered baclofen totally suppressed his cravings and he was able to stop drinking (for 4 years now), you are not taking a high enugh dose. Only 5 mg/day or even three times a day is not anywhere near a therapeutic level. Get his book and see for yourself, and good luck to you.

Comment on Meet Michael Pearlman, M.D. by Alchol

Alchol — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 00:12:22 +0000

Hey.

I really appreciate what your doing with this blog. It has some great information and is very informative. Keep up the great work.

Comment on Alcohol Treatment and the Role of Anti Craving Medications by Alcohol Freedom Blog » Flying Drunk – How Alcohol Almost Destroyed an Airline Pilot and 93 Other People

Thu, 22 Oct 2009 17:25:02 +0000

[...] we’ve discussed in a previous post about alternative alcohol treatments, alcoholism is a progressive disease that forces most people to hit bottom before they get help. [...]

Comment on The First Step Is The Most Important, But The 12 Step Program Is Not Right For Everyone by Mike

Mike — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 16:02:23 +0000

thanks for the post.
Yes, going away for treatment is not always an option for some. However, hitting an outpatient detox and rehab is a GREAT alternative!

Comment on Baclofen vis-à-vis Alcohol Cravings and Withdrawal by Maurice

Maurice — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 10:01:22 +0000

I reduced my alcohol consumption from 100 units per week to 5 with ease – using 60 – 80mg of Baclofen per day. I have recommended it to friends who had the same result. It is astonishingly effective. I drank excessively for 30 years. It may be some individuals need to use higher doses.

Comment on I’m a Banker, Stock Broker, Accountant, CEO; Not an Alcoholic! by Jordy

Jordy — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 11:12:31 +0000

It’s funny, when I started attending AA meetings regularly that’s when I began to understand that alcohol brings everyone down.

I remember sitting in meetings thinking of how I had always though of an alcoholic being the person living on the streets. I think that Foster Brooks impersonations of a drunken person and Saturday Night Live’s homeless man that lived in a cardboard box had something to do with my idea of what an alcoholic was like.

You are totally right on. Alcohol has no respect for anyone.

Comment on When It Comes to Your Drinking, Think Like a Manager, Not an Alcoholic by Jordy

Jordy — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 02:01:44 +0000

I can relate very well to what you are saying here about an alcoholics problem affecting their work. Before I quit, I would have enough alcohol in my system by noon to cause me to sleep until about two. Then, I’d get up and have another, work a while and take another nap. It was a horrible cycle. I almost lost my business completely because of my battle. Thank God and AA, I have been free from the stuff for eleven years now.

Comment on Am I A functioning Alcoholic? Three Clues to Look for Today. by Mike

Mike — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 05:22:19 +0000

Thanks for the post.
this is a good list…hopefully someone can be willing to do this. It is an honest assesment.

Comment on I’m a Banker, Stock Broker, Accountant, CEO; Not an Alcoholic! by Mike

Mike — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 16:50:26 +0000

thanks for the post.
there are so many functioning active alcoholics out there. I was one of them. I still function, I’m still and alcoholic, but I am just not an active one.
Recognizing signs of alcoholism is important and unfortunately the signs can be clouded through denial.
If someone has an active addict in their life they need to do the right thing and confront them from a position of love.

Comment on About The Freedom From Alcohol® Method by Hoot Hooten

Hoot Hooten — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 22:04:34 +0000

What a wonderful site. I’m stuck here at the house, then I found you. Just like a meeting; almost. I hope the alternatives to AA and other methods of “quitting” drinking prove positive. Mention that to a lot of AA’ers and you’ll get an accusation or a warning of moving closer to a drink rather than farther from it.

For me the choices were AA – period. Finally in a surreal and amazing spiritual experience, combined with AA, I was able to finally put the plug in the jug. My experience in Hawaii, blew my mind and turned my life around in one afternoon. So, I know there are other options and I think every single opportunity should be made available to someone who still suffers.

Thanks for the share.

Hoot

Comment on When It Comes to Your Drinking, Think Like a Manager, Not an Alcoholic by Hoot Hooten

Hoot Hooten — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 21:35:39 +0000

Ironically, the highest rate of alcohol abuse by categary is: Construction, where heavy equipment and dangerous tools are utilized.

One of the problems is, there are so many employers and heads of personel that are “gun shy” about being politically incorrect, that they’re reticent to confront the employee.

As a one time employer and a recovering alcoholic, I took the evidence straight to the employee and gave them an option – Do something about it or you’re out. Twice I told different employees to “Give me 90 meetings in 90 days.” One made it the other didn’t.

The wife of the one that didn’t, blamed me for putting so much pressure on him. Not long after, his disease took him so deep that he blew his head off with a shotgun. God rest his soul. He was a good man.

Thanks for letting me share. It’s all in my book, Drunk & Disorderly, Again

Comment on When It Comes to Your Drinking, Think Like a Manager, Not an Alcoholic by Mike

Mike — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 14:42:47 +0000

thanks for the post.
I love stats and list when it comes to addiction.
I especially like the list you blogged regarding what happens after sobriety at work.
It is so very true. I know I rarely had a six day in the 17 years I’ve been sober. I won’t say I am perfect in any of it but my stats are much higher!!!

Comment on Am I A functioning Alcoholic? Three Clues to Look for Today. by Alcohol Freedom Blog » When It Comes to Your Drinking, Think Like a Manager, Not an Alcoholic

Fri, 11 Sep 2009 17:38:49 +0000

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Comment on The Functional Alcoholic by Krissi B

Krissi B — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 19:23:16 +0000

Dear J,
I could feel your pain when I was reading your letter. I, too, know how much the “love” comes into play in these situations. I have an alcoholic husband as well.
The VERY BEST thing you can do, is locate you local Al-anon group and start attending as soon as possible. There, you will be around people who are dealing with the same thing and who understand COMPLETELY what this feels like. They are designed to help the families of addicts. Alcohol or other.
Many of the people in my group are still with their addicts. The difference is the person has learned techniques and skills to cope with the situation. The single most important thing is TAKING CARE OF YOU. I know it is hard to take the focus off of them, when this has been going on for so long… but it is do-able! You can do this. And only then can you decide without co-dependence, if this is where you truly want to stay.
Good luck, my sister.
Krissi

Comment on I’m a Banker, Stock Broker, Accountant, CEO; Not an Alcoholic! by finance_guy

finance_guy — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 20:43:36 +0000

I have to thoroughly agree with this post.

Comment on 6 Things to Do Today to Reclaim Your Life from Alcohol by Cari

Cari — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 05:08:47 +0000

I have been sober for almost 90 days, but I took your alcohol screening test with answers that I would have given three months ago. My result: “In your case, 89.5% of the adult American public including 82% of women is consuming less alcoholic drinks a week than you have reported drinking in your answers.” Scary. I’m glad I’ve decided to quit.

Comment on Alcoholic Induced Blackouts – A Defective Consciousness by Tiffany

Tiffany — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 01:07:09 +0000

Dear doctor,
Within the past few months of my life it has become disturbing the number of alcohol related blackouts I have had. Not only am I hurting people I love, but I am hurting myself. It is absolutely not any part of my nature to act in these manners and it seems as if it doesnt matter at all how much I drink. . . . .something happens and I will have no idea what happened for long periods of time. It is as if at one point in the night my brain just stops. . .leaving me to wake up in fear of what may have occured. I have experimented with eating alot versus not eating anything. . .either way….blackout. Two shots and stop or ten….blackout. This sort of thing never occurs when I drink beer. Can you help me figure any of this out or possibly give me ideas to repair the damage done. It has become a promise to all that I care about that liquor of all kinds I will never consume again. I know that it is start. What can I do?? What has done this to me??? If it means anything. . . .these blackouts staring occuring 6 months ago. Is it mental problems????

Comment on The Selfishness And Self Pity of Recovering Alcoholics by Sandra

Sandra — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 17:27:48 +0000

I have recently separated from my BF of two and a half years, who is alcohol dependent and also takes valium daily to sleep (a habit that stretches back over 20 years, I found out recently). He is also a heavy smoker (at least 40 cigarettes a day). The irony is he that he works in mental health area and regulary treats people for addiction related problems. He is apparently a caring person, but has extremely low self esteem and reacted aggressively (verbally) throughout our relationship when I broached the subject of his drinking and pill taking (this mixture is potentially fatal) and its effect on our relationship. Promises to cut down on drinking and stop smoking have never been met or, after some initial effort, have lapsed. I admit that at times I have enabled his problems.
He has had two disastrous previous marriages – not helped I would imagine by the aforementioned problems. In each case he has firmly placed himself in the role of victim to his (in his words) manipulative, neurotic and money grabbing former wives (he earns very well). I recently found out he was having an affair with a younger girl who works in the same area of mental health and split with him immediately. Phone conversations following this split consisted by insults directed at me (accusations of taking financial advantage of him – history repeats itself), lashings of self pity concerning him and incoherent rationalisation of his actions. On top of all this he told me the relationship he was (or still is) having “wasn’t even that serious” but if he feels like sleeping with young girls he will. He´s told me he’s now joined a gym, has cut down on drinking and is going to psychoanalysis sessions and is “on the way to recovery” (why is me telling me this?). I am slowly recovering from this sad episode, but really wonder if my ex is really capable of recovery and facing the very real, long term problems he has.

Comment on Astronaut Buzz Aldrin Admits Bout with Alcoholism by Ted

Ted — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 02:44:10 +0000

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Comment on Astronaut Buzz Aldrin Admits Bout with Alcoholism by Addiction Help

Addiction Help — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 18:29:15 +0000

Alcoholism is a serious medical condition that is very hard to admit to having. It is very personal. I’m glad to hear that Buzz Aldrin was able to face his sickness and get help for it. It is great when alcoholics are able to speak out and share experiences with others to help others realize and decide to seek professional help. Thanks!

Comment on 6 Things to Do Today to Reclaim Your Life from Alcohol by Health Rose

Health Rose — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 19:51:17 +0000

Simply superb.
Your Six steps are really needed for anyone wishes for alcohol recovery.
Very much useful for alcohol addicts.

Cool blog and keep it up.

Comment on The Functional Alcoholic by peppermintpatty

peppermintpatty — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 15:52:12 +0000

Run as fast as you can so you will be able to have hopes of a “normal” life.

Comment on Alcohol Dependence – My Life As I Planned It by Bill4Sobriety

Bill4Sobriety — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 14:08:07 +0000

For anonymity sakes please feel free to call me Bill, I am an alcoholic whom has been through rehab twice and am discovering the beauty of sobriety.

Great blog post!

Bill

Comment on 6 Things to Do Today to Reclaim Your Life from Alcohol by Jeremie

Jeremie — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 17:07:10 +0000

nice ill be back to check up on updates

Comment on 6 Things to Do Today to Reclaim Your Life from Alcohol by Ramsmango

Ramsmango — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 07:31:01 +0000

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Comment on Functioning Alcoholic by Chelsea

Chelsea — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 13:35:55 +0000

This is great information! It is important to acknowledge that many alcoholics or excessive drinkers are members of society – and seen as productive members at that. Alcoholism is a major problem and has been verified to be a serious medical condition. It is quite hard for alcoholics to seek treatment as they are usually not willing to acknowledge they have a problem. In order for one to accept and fully embrace treatment, the sufferer must first accept that they are at high risk and have a serious problem and then be open to getting help.

Alcoholism is a major problem, and the more education and information available, the higher the likely of helping those a greatest risk.

Comment on Is Vivitrol Right For You? by Tonya Lappel

Tonya Lappel — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 16:35:23 +0000

I’ve learned a lot from this site – I hope you continue writing because I love your stuff!

Comment on Alcohol Dependence – My Life As I Planned It by Anamika

Anamika — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 04:59:48 +0000

Good job you are doing by spreading awareness about alcohol addiction. Many people just start in for fun, show off or to get acceptance of friends or society but then get trapped in this bad habit and go to the extents of ruining health by making it an addiction.

Comment on Silencing The Alcoholic Mind by Michael Pearlman, M.D.

Michael Pearlman, M.D. — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 13:06:37 +0000

Thank you, carribeanblue – the picture you describe of your husband is a classic example of the ‘alcoholic mind’ – with its obsessional nature. This is why meaningful involvement in the Steps of AA is an essential tool for recovery. Without the spiritual, consciousness raising or purpose driven part of recovery, we have essentially an alcoholic who does not drink.

Another point is that the ego is the ‘alcoholic’ and it is restoring the ‘Soul’ that the work of recovery is done. Restoring balance is a key feature of those who work their program – or use other resources such as coaching, therapy or return to religious or spiritual practices.

Finally – it may a wise decision to work with a prescribing psychiatrist who could diagnose, your husband – prescribe the correct medications and perhaps you could participate with this treatment to see that medications are correctly taken. Best wishes with your husband. I would love to hear how it is going.

Comment on Silencing The Alcoholic Mind by sober living california

sober living california — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 01:11:28 +0000

My friend is an alcoholic, he always tell me if he is drinking beer or brandy he is very active and mentally alert and he feels good he never sick. But once he didn’t drink alcoholic beverages he is always sick. He treated alcohol as a vitamins and medicine.

-jomie-

Comment on Silencing The Alcoholic Mind by carribeanblue

carribeanblue — Fri, 05 Jun 2009 15:53:13 +0000

Dr. Pearlman, I wonder if you might discuss switching additions. The alcoholic mind cannot deal with life; once alcohol is removed, other addictions flare to fill the void. Despite AA and counseling, my alcoholic husband–now sober for almost 2 years–has switched to compulsive over-exercising, overeating/overdieting (starving all day, then pigging out), and is also switched to sex addiction. He is addicted to movement/agitation; if he is still the TV must be on, at the very least. He tries meditation, but too infrequently to help much. He does not know how to be still, how to simply BE…

Comment on Silencing The Alcoholic Mind by teen alcohol treatment

teen alcohol treatment — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 01:43:05 +0000

Thank you for this blog,I like the way you explain such things like that and i’m sure many will helped by your post. I’ve learned a lot. Looking forward to your next post.

-mj-

Comment on Alcohol Treatment and the Role of Anti Craving Medications by ilija

ilija — Wed, 27 May 2009 05:38:23 +0000

awesome stuff

Comment on Alcohol Treatment and the Role of Anti Craving Medications by Robert

Robert — Wed, 27 May 2009 03:32:56 +0000

How do I get a prescription?

Comment on Alcoholism – Progressive, Malignant And Fatal by Chuck

Chuck — Tue, 26 May 2009 20:21:21 +0000

You’re helping a lot of people with this blog, including me. I’ve just started on my journey to sobriety (7 days now — yea!) and it has been so helpful to read blog posts like this. I still don’t get the higher power thing, but I definitely understand that every cell in my body is hard-wired for the booze. Reading your post about the many ways in which alcohol can kill helped me get through today. Thank you!

Comment on Alcohol Cravings Medication – Prescription vs. Over the Counter by Tricia

Tricia — Fri, 22 May 2009 04:59:26 +0000

Will you please send me more information on the OTC methods for helping with alcohol cravings. I would like to try this method before venturing into rehab. My alcohol dependence has increased over the past 6 years and it is at the point where it is destroying my life. I have intense cravings for alcohol even though I know it is harming my marriage and my well-being. Will please forward to me the proper levels of Puerarin, Daidzein and Daidzin and where to purchase Kudzu I would be eternally grateful.
Tricia Barron

Comment on Silencing The Alcoholic Mind by awake

awake — Tue, 19 May 2009 05:10:27 +0000

just wanted to say thanks Mike. I am 23 years old with similar situations, finally wanting and working towards sobriety. You truly are a big help. Appreciate your angle.

Comment on Alcohol Treatment and the Role of Anti Craving Medications by Julie

Julie — Fri, 15 May 2009 15:54:39 +0000

Thank you so much for posting this. I am researching this topic for a private matter and this is very helpful and informative.

Comment on The Functional Alcoholic by J

Sat, 02 May 2009 09:16:17 +0000

I’ve just read the above article and want to reply. My husband has been an alcoholic since before I knew him, he was recovering when I met him but he still drank, for the most of the five years together there has been a cycle of three to four months of sobriety and then a relapse which lasts between 2-3 weeks, he cleans up and it happens all over again, however the last year or so he hasn’t had many relapses but he has still been drinking, every so often I search the house, he has some regualr hiding places, and I always find bottles, I show them to him, they get throw out, he promises it won’t happen again and then two months later I search again and more bottles are there. He tries to hide it or lie to start with my making me believe that they must be old ones I never found, then after an hour or so he crumbles and says yes, he was drinking but not anymore, then after another hour or so he comes completely clean telling me yes, all the bottles are recent and he starts crying and telling me he’s so sorry. I suffer from depression, for nearly 15 years of my life, and I do feel that when he’s been discovered he uses my depression to fool me and make me feel guilty. I’ve recently discovered more bottles today and over the past few weeks noticed strange behaviour from him but put it out of my mind as he had spent weeks lecturing me on not trying to get better, making me feel awful when I have been trying to get happy, but it’s so hard. Now I know that he has been drinking throughtout the day for weeks, I feel disappointed and betrayed that he was telling me all that, getting really nasty about it and incredibly harsh, telling me he will leave if I don’t start being happy when he was probably laughing inside because he knew he was drinking and making a fool out if me. I feel that I’m fighting a losing battle and I’m either going to be miserable for the rest of my life or I leave him and I don’t want to for all his drinking I love him. He’s tried AA, ended up in hospital with liver failure and told he was going to die, been given antabuse, been made to take them but still some how got around it and antidepressants. It’s like since he didn’t die from drink, he feels he’s invincible and just tries to push it, he’s 40 and I’m scared. I’m only 26 and I don’t think I should have to deal with this kind of thing.

How do I help him, I always have to find out and comfront him, why doesn’t he come to me when he starts drinking? Why does he have to play me all the time? How do I help him stop this?