Feb 14 2012

Announcing: Out Of The Whirlwind

Welcome Blog

Dear friends and fellow students,

My intention for this blog is to share guidance, success stories and insights into the ‘Out of the Whirlwind’ – http://outofthewhirlwind.com/ — a path to self-discovery and personal mastery. The energy, focus and learning achieved by our engagement with this process will create a vibrant and effective tool for self-mastery. This is for everyone, throughout the world, so inclined to begin the path of the warrior, by taking charge of your life and destiny. I am thrilled to share this exciting journey of self-discovery with you. It has been my life-long goal, both personally and professionally, to create an accessible and coherent tool for anyone seeking personal growth and transformation. The journey of self-discovery and personal mastery is the ultimate inner game! It is my understanding that healing, learning and creating are different aspects of the creative process, and as such these attributes will inform our path on this journey.

I am also humbled to know that my team and I are practicing what we are teaching. We have designed our blog such that you, our participants will add to the knowledge base to create a self-generating program that will serve as the gold standard for the individual creative process – wherein your life becomes the subject of the creative process.

Further, my team and I will make every effort to make this material accessible and user friendly with your feed-back and guidance, which are greatly desired and appreciated.

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Nov 15 2010

Freedom From Alcohol® on YouTube

I have a YouTube Channel, where I hope to provide a short series of videos answering questions I’m often asked, and sharing information about alcoholism and the Freedom From Alcohol program. I’ll be posting these videos here to keep you updated.

Here’s the first that provides an overview to the Freedom From Alcohol® Method. I hope it is helpful to you!

If you have any questions or want to discuss your own specific needs, call me toll-free at (866) 285-3400 or if you’re more comfortable with e-mail at this point, I can be reached at DrPearlman@FreedomFromAlcohol.com

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Jun 14 2010

Drinking Isn’t Affecting My Job – Or Is It?

There is a common misconception that alcoholics are easily identified based on their appearance, where they live, their job status, or because they look or act “impaired”. When you factor in slipping job performance, and/or increasingly showing up late or calling in sick, it may seem easy to point to someone as having a drinking problem.

But what of those who have become adept at hiding their drinking habits behind their life and/or career successes, or are what is commonly referred to as a high functioning alcoholic (HFA)?

At first, high functioning alcoholics in executive positions may believe they have their drinking under control because it isn’t obviously affecting what they do. They still make all the big decisions, conduct important meetings and keep the stock holders happy – today. In an instant all this can change.

As time goes on and excessive drinking continues, they may not notice that they’re not as sharp in their thinking, or notice memory lapses or that crucial tasks and planning may be forgotten or mishandled. Others will. At that point, it is not just your health or your family’s well-being on the line, but a company’s reputation and bottom line.

For an executive in this position, they may feel they’re in a “no win” situation.

On the one hand, they can admit they have a problem, seek help and take time off away from the company to participate in an in-patient alcohol treatment program. They know this can still affect the company or organization they represent in a negative way. Stock prices can fall, confidence in their abilities and past decisions can be questioned while away, and they’re not able to address them directly.

On the other hand, they’ve considered attending AA meetings, but whether they fear recognition or for any other reason, decide it just isn’t an option for them.

But they know if they don’t get help, chances are they will still continue to drink, leaving their company, family and health at risk.

Fortunately there are confidential, out-patient treatment programs available to help those who may feel there are no other options. Freedom From Alcohol® is an effective, discrete treatment program that not only helps curb the compulsion to drink and identify your drinking triggers, but just as importantly, works with you to create a roadmap to achieve the life you want to regain or to have in your personal and professional life.

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May 17 2010

Changing Your Life

When addicted to alcohol, it seems to rule your life. You are likely basing many of your life decisions around the use of alcohol. Where can I get my next drink? Does anyone know I am drunk? If I get caught, what will happen to my career and family? These types of thoughts can be racing through your mind at any given moment and make thinking about anything else very difficult.

When you decide to limit the influence of alcohol, you will be taking the first step toward getting your life back. You may have the self–realization that you don’t like where your life is going with alcohol at your side. Or it will take a definitive moment such as an unnatural behavior, accident or loss of a relationship due to excessive drinking.

Some will try to cut down on their drinking while others will try to completely eliminate it. Often times people find that these two methods are unsuccessful, leading them back to alcohol. When this occurs, drinkers will then seek professional help. Professional services such as in-house rehabilitation treatment centers or Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and other 12 step programs will help you to get your life back on track; however, sometimes these plans are not an option because of the sensitivity of your career, your position in the community or the fact that you simply do not have the time to be away from home for an extended time.

The Freedom From Alcohol® program helps you modify and control your drinking or opt for complete cessation if that’s what you wish. This program will help you to change your life by setting goals for yourself and giving you the tools necessary to achieve them. If you are ready to reduce the amount of alcohol you drink, eliminate it completely or just have questions about whether the Freedom From Alcohol® program is right for you, please contact me.

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Mar 26 2010

Friends and Family of an Excessive Drinker

When people drink excessively, it not only affects their actions and their heath, but it also deeply affects those around them. Friends and family of an excessive drinker or alcoholic often change their lives to protect and/or accommodate what this person does and feels – in effect, “enabling” their loved one’s drinking problem.

Have you ever:

  • Made excuses for someone’s behavior or absences due to their drinking?
  • Had to change plans suddenly because of loved one’s drinking habits?
  • Done something for your friend or family member that they are completely capable of doing, but they couldn’t do at that time because they had too much to drink?
  • Called a person into work “sick”, because they were under the influence or too hung over to go into the office?
  • Tried to hide or throw away alcoholic beverages to get them to stop drinking – even for that day?
  • Made them feel guilty, or accused them of not caring about you and/or their family enough in an attempt to stop them from drinking?
  • Felt hopeless, frustrated and out of control because of another’s drinking problem?

These are oftentimes symptoms of being an enabler. We enablers mistakenly believe we are helping our loved one by protecting them, or shaming or accusing them in an effort to get them to stop drinking, but in fact we make the situation worse.

So what can you do?

The first thing you need to understand is that you are not the cause of their problem drinking.

The second thing you need to understand is that you can’t “fix” the excessive drinker, nor can you force them to stop drinking or accept treatment.

What you can do is accept the support of programs available to help you with getting control of your own feelings of hopelessness and despair and give you the tools you need to learn a better way of life and find happiness – for you.

Two very good options:

A final note: While the one you care about needs your love and support, the primary person you should be focusing on is yourself. You will be able to be much more effective in helping your loved one seek help when you are experiencing well-being.

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Mar 19 2010

Alcohol Screening Test & the Freedom From Alcohol® Alternative

For many, consuming alcoholic beverages in moderation is not a problem. But for others, drinking can lead to problems in their life. Do you think you have a drinking problem, or are on the path to one? If so, there is a simple self evaluation test you can take that can help you to decide whether or not you have a problem. Take our Alcohol Screening test now to see if you might have a problem with alcohol.

When you take the alcohol screening test, rest assured you will:

  • Be completely anonymous
  • Receive immediate feedback and recommended action based on your score

If you are ready to seek help, there are many options available. Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) meetings can help, seeking treatment in the traditional sense with a 12 step program, or you can go to one of the many alcohol residential treatment centers available. Both have proven to be very effective in treating alcoholism.

But what if you are not comfortable with the prospect of attending AA meetings, or you’re unable to take extended time off to go to an in-house alcohol treatment center due to your need for utmost discretion, and/or because you have a demanding, high level position, or because of your position in the community?

These options may not work for you, but that doesn’t mean that you should sacrifice help. If you fall into one of these situations, our program is designed for you. The two treatment options we provide:

  1. The In House Freedom program that includes an In-Person medical evaluation as part of your treatment and,
  2. The Internet-Based Freedom program, that involves partnering with your own physician as part of your treatment.

Both Freedom From Alcohol® treatment programs utilize medical evaluations, alcohol cessation medication, coaching/counseling, and other proven techniques to help you break free from your alcohol dependency.

If you think you may have a problem with excessive drinking and have questions or would like more information about our programs, please contact me today for a complimentary and confidential consultation.

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Mar 15 2010

The Drinking Diary

Awhile back, I wrote about Coping with the Holidays and gave you some tips to help curb your drinking during this stressful time.

How did you do with those tips?  Were you able to reduce or eliminate your drinking by getting more sleep and exercise?

If you noticed that you drank more than you anticipated, or were not able to handle the stress without a drink, you are not alone and you are not a failure.  Making life changes is hard work and doesn’t happen over night.

We’re winding up the first quarter of the year, and it is a great opportunity for change – a time to focus on you and getting healthy, so you can be at your best in the office and with your family.

An effective way to get started is to identify your drinking patterns and triggers by keeping a journal of your drinking activity.  Start with writing down when you drink and how much you drank.  Think about why you made a decision to drink and what activities made you want to drink more.  Documenting this information will help you begin to identify patterns in your life that lead to excessive drinking, and this is an important step in your recovery. When reviewing, study these activities to become aware of any patterns you’re seeing, and make a plan to avoid those situations, or do something in its place to reduce your chance of excessive drinking.

As a part of the Freedom From Alcohol® treatment program, I’ll help guide you through the process of healing.  Our practical guide and proprietary software program are designed to assist you in identifying your drinking habits, triggers, and other conflicts that lead to your drinking.  With these tools you can document your thoughts, feelings and other revelations about your drinking to aid in the ongoing dialogue you will have with me throughout your treatment program.

I’m available to answer any questions you might have about the program and whether it is right for you.  For more information, or to start your treatment program today, please contact me.

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Dec 28 2009

Three Ways to Avoid The Temptation of Alcohol This Holiday Season

In my post last week, I mentioned the challenges of coping with the holidays. I’d like to share some ideas with you that I think will help take you away from bad habits this holiday season:

  1. Get plenty of sleep and exercise. Proper rest and being active helps you handle the extra stress of the holiday season.
  2. Design your ideal day. Sit down and think of a perfect day, think of the things you would do from the moment you woke up until the moment you go back to sleep. Where would you work, where would you be, what would you wear and with whom would you spend your time. Thinking of the life you want can be a powerful trigger to help you evaluate your current activities and habits.
  3. Do something completely different. Take a walk through your neighborhood to view holiday decorations, go on a picnic or visit a museum. Familiarity can be a trap, especially around the holidays. When you are trying to drink less, it’s difficult to keep the same social schedule or routine without reaching for a drink.

Through the use of anti-craving medication and our proven Freedom From Alcohol Method ® we’ve helped so many make it through the holidays without excessive drinking. If you need help now, please consult your doctor or contact me to learn if our program is the right one to help you curb excessive drinking.

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Dec 21 2009

Coping With The Holidays – How To Determine If You’re Drinking Too Much

As the holiday season is upon us, there are usually more opportunities or excuses for functioning alcoholics to over-indulge. Informal happy hours with co-corkers are filled with well wishes for most, and pitfalls for the alcoholic. Work sponsored holiday parties and social gatherings are also risky endeavors that could lead to embarrassing behavior and career threatening transgressions.

Holiday parties are one source of opportunity for the high functioning alcoholic but of equal concern are the senses of loneliness, stress and despair that many people feel during the holiday season. (If you often feel extra stress this time of year, The Mayo Clinic has some great tips to cope with the extra stress of the holiday season.) For many people, making it from Thanksgiving to New Years’ usually involves excessive consumption of alcohol.

What’s important to remember is that most alcoholics are not on the street begging for change. Most are among us contributing to society and holding down jobs. Most are like you or your friends. In between work and drinking, alcoholics often attempt to have normal family and other relationships. It’s only as the disease progresses, usually without self realization, that alcoholics begin to sabotage their careers and friendships.

So how do you know if you have a problem?

  1. Keep a journal of your drinking through the holidays
  2. Set a hard limit of drinks and see if you can stick to it
  3. Take the alcohol screening test

Most importantly, whether you feel you have a problem or you feel you don’t — but still want to curb your drinking; contact me today to see if The Freedom From Alcohol Method® is right for you.

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Oct 22 2009

Flying Drunk – How Alcohol Almost Destroyed an Airline Pilot and 93 Other People

If you were searching for proof that your drinking before or during work is not hurting anyone but yourself; the new book Flying Drunk by Joe Balzer is an eye opener to the dangers involved in drinking. As the Flight Engineer on a commercial airline flight, Mr. Balzer, along with the Pilot and Co-Pilot, was arrested for flying drunk with 91 passengers and crew aboard the aircraft that he was responsible for getting safely from Fargo to Minneapolis.

As we’ve discussed in a previous post about alternative alcohol treatments, alcoholism is a progressive disease that forces most people to hit bottom before they get help. For professionals, it’s important to realize that you are in the grasp of alcohol before the loss of your health, family alienation and or the loss of your job. In Mr. Balzer’s case, getting arrested for being intoxicated at the controls of a passenger jet was his bottom and it resulted in a federal prison sentence.

While most people may not directly put other lives in danger by succumbing to their cravings for alcohol; the risk to your career and the consequences can be the same. You could hurt yourself or another innocent person while driving to work or make mistakes that would jeopardize your career path.

Many in the financial and insurance industries could also make compliance related mistakes that, while sober, would not have occurred. The important thing to do is become aware of the warning signs of an alcoholic and have the courage to reach out for help. There are many confidential alcohol treatments available that don’t require in-patient care. Please get help today.

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